Trusting in your personal worth is a gamble...but what else have you got?

Monday, August 13, 2007

First Day of School at a Charter School

Wow. I think this could be the most difficult thing I've done in long a time. I had one kid who just wanted to challenge everything I said: he didn't have to sit down, he didn't have to work on his assessment, and he didn't have to stop talking to his friends and get to work right now. Wow. I almost sent him to the office. I think, however, there must be a different way. After a while, I sat down next to him and started pointing out problems for him to do, and that was helpful, because then he actually did it.

There must be something to do about a kid who only wants to challenge a teacher. Perhaps the point is just to move on sooner and allow him to get bored. Yeah, that's it. Remember the story of Beebop? She didn't understand that secret smile, but she eventually got her act together.

One student brought up an interesting concept: One must earn a person's respect. He talked about how the world of gangs and street talking and fighting worked, saying that a man's respect is huge.

There are so many issues in inner-city schools: The #1 issue the students and even teachers pointed to today was lack of money. Students in my class were saying that the only reason we tutors were there was because the school would lose its funding if the students didn't all pass the Arizona Standardized Test. So these students are indignant because they think that I am only there for my own benefit. My initial response, in layman's terms, would be: Grow the f*ck up!

However, excellent teachers clearly bestow far more knowledge than can be found in books as they coax their charges forth into the world of responsibility. With that, simple challenges such as these can be met with the shear confidence that comes from greater experience and knowledge that for all every erratic teenage impulse, there is a sliver of simple truth that anyone may garner. Our choices are more basic than they seem, yet our control is far less than we imagine. And for any anger set ready to explode on all sides, a lot of loving water passes through the network of canals, running through the desert.

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4 Comments:

Anonymous Neil E. Das said...

Go, Pip, go. Good on you man as you take on this challenge, and blessings too, on you and your charges.

August 13, 2007 8:36 PM

 
Blogger philpirrip said...

Thanks, we all need it. My co-tutor, today, blew up at the same kid who challenged me the most on Monday. Wow.

August 15, 2007 5:38 PM

 
Blogger Heidi said...

Amen and hell yeah!

I just had an 8 yr old an hour ago who was telling me he got all "F's" last year because he simply doesn't want to do the work. He went to school for 2 hours today and already has homework because he scribbled on the paper and ripped up his classwork rather than do it. He told me he felt like flipping his desk when the teacher gave him a worksheet. He restrained that impulse. This time.

I pointed out all the consequences and asked him what he was getting out of this, and he said thoughtfully, "I don't know. I feel kind of good inside even when I get in trouble and get "F's" that they can't make me no matter how they try." I asked if it made him feel powerful and his eyes lit up, and he responded "Yeah!"

But like he said, no one can make him, not me, not the teacher, no one.

God be with you!

August 15, 2007 6:46 PM

 
Blogger philpirrip said...

Yeah Heidi!
I have to say, maybe it's important for some kids to assert themselves like this: perhaps the boundary wasn't maintained at home.

August 17, 2007 3:59 PM

 

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